Visit The Boston Globe Share on Twitter Share on Facebook Comment on this Scroll to top of page Robin Abrahams December 06, 2018 Need advice? Submit questions for Miss Conduct here. My spouse and I have enjoyed hosting overnight guests for many years. Unfortunately, he has declined cognitively and has had mental health issues and depression for the past two years. Many family members have been sensitive to what is going on and realize how difficult it is to have overnight guests. However, I am not sure how to respond (kindly) to those people who have been persistent in their requests to visit. My spouse is very private and does not want his issues shared with others. C.S. / Orleans Oh, C.S., I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Mental illness is hell. You’ve got two options, as I see it. You could talk to the people who have figured it out on their own and ask them to discreetly get the non-clue-picker-uppers on board without your … [Read more...] about Advice: How can I tell friends about my spouse’s cognitive decline?
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Belfast fraud victim: They took £4k from my bank account in a few hours... I never thought it would happen to me BelfastTelegraph.co.uk A victim of fraud. Not a club I ever wanted to be a part of but it's one I found myself in exactly a week ago. https://www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/news/northern-ireland/belfast-fraud-victim-they-took-4k-from-my-bank-account-in-a-few-hours-i-never-thought-it-would-happen-to-me-37358410.html https://www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/incoming/article37358966.ece/80347/AUTOCROP/h342/_K4175-_Read-Only_.jpg Email A victim of fraud. Not a club I ever wanted to be a part of but it's one I found myself in exactly a week ago. A quick lunchtime shopping trip in Belfast city centre led to the discovery that I, like so many others, had been scammed. When police say scams can happen to anyone, they really mean anyone. I just never thought that it would happen to me. Yes I have had friends who have suffered a similar fate and there is probably very little any … [Read more...] about Belfast fraud victim: They took £4k from my bank account in a few hours… I never thought it would happen to me
Visit The Boston Globe Share on Twitter Share on Facebook Comment on this Scroll to top of page Robert Weisman Globe Staff September 25, 2018 Don Mitchell loves his job as a software engineer, has no plans to retire, and doesn’t turn 60 till next March. But he’s already begun pondering a weighty question facing most Americans in their early 60s: when to begin collecting Social Security benefits.That question might seem straightforward if you haven’t started looking into it. But there are enough wrinkles and curveballs to warrant careful consideration.The age when Uncle Sam will begin paying you full benefits — the “full retirement age” — used to be 65, but now it’s 66 or 67, depending on when you were born. Advertisement You can collect reduced monthly benefits as early as 62. Or you can wait until as late as 70 and receive more, but you’ll need money from another source to tide you over. Get … [Read more...] about Big question looming for 60-somethings: When should I start taking Social Security?
An early note about an October event: Newtonville Books has a book club where authors discuss famous/classic books. On Oct. 23, I'll be leading a book club event about Anne Rice's "Interview With the Vampire." (If you read "Can't Help Myself," you know that there's an entire chapter about vampires and how they relate to this column.) You can read "Interview" with friends and meet up to discuss it that night. I'm mentioning it now so you have time to sink your teeth into it. :) I've been married for 11 years. Recently, an ex started emailing me looking to re-connect. He and I were together for many years and even lived together, and we probably would have gotten married, but I thought we were too young at the time. He is also married but wants to sext and email constantly about sexual things he wants us to do together. We had an amazing and adventurous sex life, and we now both have vanilla sex lives. He wants to meet up, and I sort of want to as well. I know it's wrong, but I … [Read more...] about Can I meet up with my ex?
Visit The Boston Globe Share on Twitter Share on Facebook Comment on this Scroll to top of page Robin Abrahams August 24, 2018 Need advice? Submit questions for Miss Conduct here. I have a colleague whose moodiness is affecting our workplace. Sometimes he’s pleasant, but other times he just goes silent, and he can also be hostile. I personally often feel as if I’ve been judged and found lacking. The silent treatment is the worst; it’s like I am not even worthy of basic politeness. I find myself wanting to give tit for tat, but that could make things worse. I also don’t want to go whining to the manager every time a pall hangs over his cubicle. Is there a way to address this, short of quitting? J.H. / Boston The person you need to address this with is not your colleague or your boss. It’s yourself.On some level, you seem to understand that your colleague’s behavior is about him and his own struggles. But you’re still … [Read more...] about Advice: How can I get along with my grumpy co-worker?